Being quiet is powerful. I am learning every comment does not demand an immediate response. It is essential to listen, comprehend the question or thought and then respond or not. Reflect on the statement or question being asked. I am in control of the words that I speak and I prefer to speak words filled with encouragement, love, and life. I haven’t always been quiet. Growing up, I had a negative attitude and took pride in having the last word. I enjoyed hurting people with my negative words. I actually took great pleasure in intimating my opponent. It was a way of life for me. I was hurt therefore I hurt others.
Over ten years ago, I gave my life to Christ and I surrender my tongue, thoughts, actions to him daily. I’m a work in progress. I’d like to think I’m perfectly flawed for God’s use. In the bible, Gal. 5:22 states, “But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. Against such things, there is no law.” I’m always able to measure my spiritual fruit by referring to this scripture. Self-control is defined as having discipline. The ability to ‘say no’ or to simply not to respond to foolish. The ability to refrain and take full responsibility for our actions, thoughts, and word is imperative. It shows my growth in Christ.
In the midst, of being quiet I’m able to reflect before I react. We live in a world where people tend to reactively criticize. The media often portray and magnify the negativity in our society. Television ratings are often based on the latest drama and gossip. I pray we will take a moment to be quiet, reflect and respond accordingly. When we react out of ignorance we tend to operate in a place of blame, fault finding and pride. I have no desire to go back to the old person, therefore, it is essential I refrain from talking until the right moment.